very defensive, you know, about 47% or gifts or whatever things mitt romney may have said. >> so i guess my question is, anna, do you just have to declare a truce and say this is off limits? what do you do for family harmony and for digestive purposes? >> normally i think there's a way to talk about any issue that's interesting as long as you keep the boundaries down. at thanksgiving dinner so close to the election, this might be too hard to do. might be easier to pass on this one. have a couple of outs, you know, an exit strategy. >> i thought you were going to say have a couple of drinks. >> i was going to say that will make it worse. uncle steve at the table. sorry. >> no. exactly. if you get cornered by somebody, have an exit strategy, have a question before hand ready to go to kind of redirect conversation because frankly we've all already voted. you're not going to change anybody's mind. >> has it gotten worse in recent years, jonathan, in part because of people like you who write columns that get us all worked up? >> yes. >> yes. it's my fault. >> it's my fault. it's our fault. bu